“The beautiful spring came; and when Nature resumes her loveliness, the human soul is apt to revive also.” ~Harriet Ann Jacobs
I am so feelin’ it the past few days. I hope that if the season is Spring wherever you are, it is bringing the joy of new growth and beauty to your life. Sometimes we have to go out and find it. The gardens in my life are springing forth! Literally, as you can view in the garden video and figuratively in my professional life.
The best view is full screen.
Professionally, new growth in the past had come often through processing grief, workplace toxicity, and vicarious trauma. The Universe inviting growth by providing experiences in which it was my choice to continue to be unhappy where I was at or move on before I had originally planned. So many of the childhood rules played into the drama. Was I a quitter? Or a failure for “allowing” PTSD to hijack my brain? The memoir I continue to write is about these situations and how my personal and professional identity shifted over time in response to drama and trauma.
I like when the timing of moving on is MY idea.
This month, I am preparing to move my private practice office to a larger space on Mother’s Day weekend. This will be the third time I’ve moved my office (lemme just say it’s about 8 hours of work notifying all of the entities of the new practice address!).
Each move has been to a larger office space representing my new growth as a therapist. In the newest office I will have the space to offer support and therapy groups, and potentially offer a Compassion Satisfaction, Burnout (moral injury), and Vicarious Trauma class or support group for professionals. I cannot yet see what that will look like (do I have what it takes to help other healthcare and mental health professionals??) but, the point is the space will be there should the stars align with my idea.
I proceed with a “growth mindset.” I am exploring the possibilities.
Last year a friend gave me Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck, Ph, D. Very helpful in terms of understanding how to change your thinking to get “unstuck” in your life and grow through challenges. The coolest thing, really, is that the high school my kids will attend issues this book to every student. My kids will be reading it over summer! The best best part is that “mom” didn’t assign it! School did 😉
One thing I realized reading her book is how I was primarily operating with a growth mindset growing up. Conflict appeared with my mom a few times because she thought differently about things. It wasn’t that she didn’t learn new things, take on challenges, but rather, she applied a limited viewpoint with me. When I said, “I think I’d like to take a drawing class” in 8th grade as an elective, her response was, “Bonnie you don’t know how to draw, why would you take that class?”
My father, on the other hand, definitely operates from the growth mindset. I think this is what kept me moving forward beyond what I knew, but other messages continued to operate effecting my self-esteem. This is just one example I am examining in relation to my perceived identity changing over the years.
To read more about growth mindset I recommend:
For instant gratification watch Carol:
Happy Bloomin’ Spring!
If you or a loved one are suffering from vicarious or secondary trauma or PTSD you might check out these resources:
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/ptsd-trauma/traumatic-stress.htm/ This is a fantastic article that also includes tips for recovery.
If you or someone you know may be in a mental health crisis:
Call a suicide hotline number — in the United States, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) to reach a trained counselor. Use that same number and press 1 to reach the Veterans Crisis Line.
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