“One of the things that happens to people in grief is they secretly think they’re crazy, because they realize they are thinking things that don’t make sense.”~Joan Didion, Author, Journalist, Playwright
2/6/19 Early this morning I stood at our kitchen sink, coffee cup in hand, looking out the window. A big California Black Oak tree stands in our front yard; winter’s leafless limbs heavy with age and thick bark. At the street end of our concrete walkway, there were three stuffed white plastic bags and three stuffed black plastic bags. The three white bags were full of my mom’s clothes ready for pick up by the thrift store van.
I stood there for a moment and thought, “how strange, it’s as if I’ve kicked my mom to the curb.” The next thought came, “should I go get those bags and deliver them to the thrift store myself?”
The black bags were full of my husband’s old clothes. When he walked into the kitchen a moment later, I realized I hadn’t thrown anyone to the curb.
Grief is a confusing mix of raw emotions. Bizarre thoughts are a normal part of the process. Even 366 days after the death.
Yesterday I planted a yellow floribunda rose named “Sunsprite” in my front yard, in remembrance.
One year death anniversaries are hard. Rituals help with the process of allowing grief’s complexities to move through us.
There’s space for as many roses as I need.
Remember, thoughts are just that, thoughts. Nothing more. You are not “crazy” and they need not crush you.
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*Quotes of Wisdom – a Friday at 9am (Pacific Time Zone) series offering Wisdom, Feel Good, Inspirational and Thought-provoking Quotes. Sometimes with links and most likely, with too many thoughts of my own included.