A Reason, Season or Lifetime – in memory of a friend

Friday night I learned a dear friend passed away.  She was young, just 61.  Our friendship was old, our spirits perhaps having met before my memory. I did not pay attention to the voice in my head that asked if she was ill some time ago, and I will live with that as a regret always.  She would have turned 62 on Friday. 

I am enveloped in grief.  As I process my complex emotions I am reminded of the poem she introduced to me years ago.  She was in my life for a Reason during the transition in committed relationships (mine then hers) & a difficult time on my first job out of grad school. The things she taught me will last a Lifetime.  The gifts I hold dear. 

One lesson to never forget:  Speak your voice even if others disagree.  This is not so easy; I’ll keep practicing letting go of fear.

Vickie was beautiful, strong, a leader, courageous,  generous, a wise old soul, funny, optimistic, and a tireless champion of mentally ill wounded souls.  She was a mentor, friend, and life teacher to me.

She always had a hug and an open heart to share.  Another lesson to remember.

It is an honor to have walked beside her for the few years that we shared as friends on this earth. I believe our spirits will meet again. 

Here’s the poem I have come back to again, and again over the years.  It fits nicely with last week’s Quotes of Wisdom #2  post about letting go and was in my mind at the time though it took learning of my friend’s death to bring it forward to this space now.  Namaste

A Reason, Season or Lifetime – Friendship Poem

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed or just felt. They have come to assist you through a hard time, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. Then, suddenly, the person disappears from your life. Your need has been met; their work is done.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share or grow or give back. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They give you great joy. Believe it; it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME  relationships teach you lifetime lessons—things you must build upon to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all your other relationships.

Think about the people in your life over the years. Whether they were there for a reason, a season or a lifetime, accept them and treasure them for however long they were meant to be part of your life.

And when they are gone, be thankful for the gifts you received from them when they were here—for a reason, a season or a lifetime.  ~~Unknown                                  

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6 Replies to “A Reason, Season or Lifetime – in memory of a friend”

  1. I am sorry for the passing of your friend, Bonnie. You give her a fine tribute here with this post. I know this poem and it is a wonderful reminder of what she has taught you of relationships. Do take care xx

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  2. A beautiful tribute to your friend Bonnie and I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve come to believe the truth of that poem – I used to find it difficult to let go of people who were only in my life for a while, but I now recognise that they were there for a purpose at the time.


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